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Being a caregiver is a stressful and demanding job, often with no pay and no thanks. There is usually very little, if any opportunity to plan as often it starts after a crisis medical event. The well-being of the caregiver requires priority consideration. Let’s face it, if you are not well, they won’t be well.
Here are 9 Must Do's:
  1. Educate. Know your loved one’s health issues. Learn as much as you can
  2. Accept. Do not take behavior changes personally. It is not about you
  3. Be Resourceful. Do what you can with what you got
  4. Be Realistic. Plant both of your feet in reality and in the present
  5. Get Help. Seek professional help whenever necessary. You WILL need help
  6. Get More Help. DO ask for help. It may seem hard now but you need it, they are willing. It’s a win-win
  7. Delegate. Share your concerns and responsibilities with other interested parties
  8. Rest. Know your limits. Take breaks when you need to, if not physically then at least mentally
  9. Smile. Laugh through the tears
Take care of yourself 
Because You Care

 
 
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1. Start early. This mean less pressure and you have the luxury to stop and pick up the conversation if you need to take a pause. 
2. Include other family members. Family dynamics differ but ultimately you are not alone.
3. Let them know why you are having the conversation. Your parents love you. Your concerns are their concerns. 
4. Keep in mind, your parents still need to be independent. The goal is for them to remain independent as long as they can with minimum intrusion. They need to be in control of their lives.
5. Agree to disagree. It it important to respect their wishes but safety comes first. 
6. Use good communication skills, despite the highly emotion topics. Offering options is more effective that offering advice. 
7. When the time is right, ask about records and documentation. insurance policies, wills, health care proxies, living wills, trust documents, tax returns, and investment and banking records are located. You can start by asking your parent where they keep their papers, and whom you should contact in case they're in an accident, or are incapacitated. But understand they may be hesitant to disclose all information but  this might make it a bit easier.
8. Your parents may not have all the information. Learn about long-term health care insurance together. Medicare does not cover it and medicaid only covers low income individuals. 
9. Re-evaluate. When the situation shifts or if you can't have all the conversations at once.... revisit. 
10. Always be respectful.While old age can be a rewarding time, it is also often a time of loss - of loved ones, of health, and of independence. Treat your parents with love and respect, and reassure them that you will be there for them as they age. 
11. Remember you can plant a seed with a whisper more than you can with a scream. 

Because You Care

Resou
rces: https://www.agingwithdignity.org/forms/5wishes.pdf

Inspired by: "Ten Tips for Talking to Your Aging Parents", AARP Health Care Options/Met Life Mature Market Institute


 
 

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1.     Seek support from other caregivers.  You are not alone! 
2.     Take care of your own health so that you can be strong enough to take care of your loved one.
3.     Accept offers of help and suggest specific things people can do to help you. 
4.     Learn how to communicate effectively with doctors. 
5.     Caregiving is hard work so take respite breaks often.
6.     Watch out for signs of depression and don't delay in getting professional help when you need it. 
7.     Be open to new technologies that can help you care for your loved one. 
8.     Organize medical information so it's up to date and easy to find.
9.     Make sure legal documents are in order.
10. Give yourself credit for doing the best you can in one of the toughest jobs there is!
11. As much as you can try to plan ahead to avert crisis. We are all approaching the inevitable. 

Because You Care

First published by Caregivers Action Network


 
 
Here is a checklist to help you make the most of your doctor’s visit:

Before the Visit
  • Write down all questions or any concerns you might have so you don’t forget them. This will help you state them clearly. Regardless of how insignificant you feel the doctor may think it is– ASK!
  • Identify current symptoms. Use the following handy symptom-reporting guide.
  • Update the patient file and medication list. Be sure to include all medications, over the counter drugs and supplements.
  • Call to confirm appointment
During the Visit
  • Bring the updated medication list
  • Clearly report all of your loved one’s symptoms; don’t try to diagnose the problem.
  • Ask your questions and record the answers
  • Record doctor's instructions
  • Discuss recommendations
  • Verify follow-up
After the Visit
  • Review your notes
  • Check prescriptions
  • Discuss the visit
  • Update your calendar
  • Call for test results
What types of questions to ask if it’s the first visit:
  • What can we expect as the normal progression of the diagnosis?
  • What kind of physical and emotional support will she/he need to maintain independence?
  • Are there particular signs and symptoms we need to look for and report?
  • Is there any training I need in order to be able to support her/him? If so where can we get the training?
  • How best can we manage pain or discomfort?
  • What is and what is not treatable?
  • Are there any assistive devices or gadgets that will help in maintaining independence?
  • Are there any resources or services that would be helpful for her/him or for us as caregivers?

Because You Care

First published at: http://www.caregiveraction.org/profiles/tools/doctor-office-checklist/
and Washington State Department of Social Services Aging and Long-Term Support Administration

PicturePhoto By: Andrew Malone